Seeing Beyond The Clothes
Remember all of those cliques back in High School? Preppy, Cheerleader, snobby, popular, skater, and yes even the loose girls. We could tell exactly what ‘group’ someone fit into simply by the clothes they wore. Now, looking back, I wonder if those cliques really reflected who we were. The best illustration I’ve ever seen how cliques might not be all their cracked up to be is in the Movie ‘The Breakfast Club.’ By the end of their day in detention, the self-proclaimed “Breakfast Club” realized a big reason they dressed or acted they way they did was to please someone else. By just talking to people outside of their clique, the revelation was made that they all had the same struggles, questions and some likes. It didn’t matter what clique they were in. In that one day the “Breakfast Club” came into their own and were never the same. Though we may never have a transforming day like theirs, hopefully somewhere along the way we find we don’t have to fit into a clique at all. We just have to be ourselves. Today, I don’t feel a need to fit into a certain category. People will either choose to like me or not. Others may put me into a category that don’t fit me but you know what? I don't care because I know who I am and my worth is much deeper than the clothes I wear. My clothes reveal who I am on the inside and I like that girl!
The best thing I ever did while I was single was rip off all of those labels and figured out who I was on the inside – what were my likes, what styles or things was I drawn to. By just adjusting my mind-set in that one area, it helped me understand what guys were, well, a little bit more worthy of me. It also helped me be-friend girls that looked beyond what I was wearing. I found my own Breakfast Club!
Clothes do say a lot, so make sure you are sending the right message. Your clothes are an outward reflection of who you are on the inside, not a certain group. So this spring as you hit the mall for the new Spring Fashions, take a look in the mirror first and ask if you still chasing ‘that group’ you think you want to be a part of. I hope not because trust me, life get’s better in every area when you are true to yourself. So don’t wait, see beyond the clothes now, while you are single.