A Godly wife, who is she?  The more I learn the more I realize I need to learn. It can be overwhelming to read Proverbs 31. Will we every measure up to her? We sometimes get caught up in trying “to do” all of those things and forget to just be quiet and “listen” to our husband and to the Lord. I find myself this year making the same resolution that I have made in the past.  So why can’t I get it?

It seems I am hearing God louder and louder these days saying “Shh”, he is my responsibility not yours.  God does not need us to prove His point; He does not need us to share with our husband what we feel he should do over and over again.

There is power in being quiet, yet it seems I have to be gently reminded by the Lord.  Why is it when I feel I have learned that lesson and can go on to the next, I am humbled and reminded my mouth is not perfect and needs to be readjusted one more time.

Proverbs 31:28 says,

She speaks with wisdom and faithful instruction is on her tongue.

I guess that is why I feel it is my duty to explain to my husband what he should do. I am sure I know what God is speaking to him, as if I am the Word of God.  However, gaining wisdom comes in moments of self control, reflection and quietness with the Lord.

So this year, instead of being overwhelmed with all that I want to be, my prayer will be to be quiet and remember my duty, as a Godly wife, is to be a praying wife for my husband; and as I sit quietly, I am sure God will give me wisdom to fulfill those “other duties”. It is during that time He can show me how I can best support and encourage him.

Remember a quiet spirit is also a gentle spirit.  Our eyes, our body and actions or lack of action can be just as harmful as the words we speak. What are we saying to our husband without saying a word?  Are you acting like someone who you would want to talk to?   Proverbs 31:28 says her husband praises her. How hard is it to praise a woman who never listens, feels she knows it all or displays an attitude that is less than unloving and disrespectful?

So instead of getting caught up in the list of things to be and do, let’s demonstrate self- control, be quiet and listen with a smile and warm heart while we draw closer to the Lord. In doing so we  may be surprised to learn our husband does care what we have to say and may even ask to give him “Wise Instruction”.  (Proverbs 31:28).